Save Yourself Years of Grief!

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I’m going to tell you something that’s going to save you from years of grief! It took me way too long to figure this out and I don’t want you to experience the frustration and stress I did for so long.

So here it is.

You don’t need anyone’s approval, support, or gratitude for your decisions that only impact you.  

When you rely on others’ approval, support, or gratitude for a decision that only impacts you, you will get very frustrated and, maybe stressed when they don’t approve, support, or show gratitude.  And you will likely respond to them with anger, leading to, possibly, resentment.  Which then creates another negative response from them. 

And it goes on…

Trust me, you won’t feel good about that.  So, save yourself from years of grief by not relying on anyone’s approval, support, or gratitude for your decisions that only impact you.

And the bonus is, that you will feel empowered when you do this. 

Why?

Because you are trusting yourself to make a decision.  Even when you’re not sure it’s the right decision, YOU will be making it and taking responsibility for it. Taking responsibility builds independence.  Gaining independence builds confidence.  And that, my friend, leads to a feeling of empowerment. 

Not relying on anyone’s approval, support, or gratitude for your decisions that only impact you, does not mean that you can’t be open to feedback. That is different. 

Asking for feedback gives you new perspectives for your decision-making.  It allows you to ask questions and explore ideas.  When you do this, you are gaining knowledge for your decision-making journey.  And, that can be a very wise thing to do. 

But, as I said, that is different than relying on anyone’s approval, support, or gratitude for your decisions that only impact you.  If you do that, you are simply opening yourself up to judgments that may not be relevant to the actual decision and may just serve to frustrate you. 

It is important to know when to ask for feedback instead of approval, support, or gratitude. 

How do you distinguish between the two?

First, you need to understand what it is you are asking.  In other words, you need to understand your TRUTH about the decision that you want to make.  That means you need CLARITY about the decision.  What the decision is and why do you want to make it? 

Once you have that CLARITY - knowing your decision and why you want to make it - you will be in a much stronger position to act on it.  At that point, you will have the confidence to approach others for feedback rather than relying on their approval, support, or gratitude. 

And this will save you from years of grief!

Now the big question is how do you understand your TRUTH and gain that CLARITY? 

You know the answer.  You’re already here. 

Therapeutic writing, of course! 

Sending good writing vibes,